Marianne, I follow a lot of your stuff and I’ve read your book, but I don’t think I understand why the “love your body” rhetoric is problematic. If you have the time and inclination, could you please elaborate?
I definitely can!
There’s a lot of…
If you love your body, you’re more inclined to demand that others respect it and you.
Also, this argument presupposes there is only one kind of love—that of rainbows and kittens and paths without rocks. Love isn’t easy. It’s hard. It’s a million little choices you make every day. It also isn’t simplistic or one dimensional. I love my family but sometimes hate what they do. Ditto to my body.
Loving your body doesn’t mean “hey, this is what you got, accept it and shut up.” It can mean “do what you need so that you can love your body.”
To say that one cannot struggle with their body or identity and also love themselves skeeves ME out.
Pretty good :)
One thing I’d like to say about this video is that having an entirely different section in porn for fat isn’t necessarily a bad or degrading thing. I’m fat. I’m happy with my fat. My fat body works and moves differently than a thin body. I don’t mind when porn addresses that, so having a separate category isn’t a problem for me. Of course, it IS a problem when people want to say that fat people shouldn’t be sexual at all and try to erase us from porn/sex/whatever in general.
If you are an FA and you’re out and/or not hiding your love for Fatties, then this isn’t a message for you. Carry on and more power to you.
To everyone else:
That’s right. I’m fat. I’m really really fat. I’m also a sexual human being. Lots of things appeal to me and lots of things get me off. You know, just like lots of other people. And I’m going to be out in public, living my life, being a human being with all that entails, including having a sexuality. So, please, get used to it. Okay? Stop freaking out when you find out that fat people have and enjoy sex. Stop being aghast that, as a fat woman, I have a choice in who and where and when and how I fuck. Stop thinking that my standards are low (or should be) just because I’m fat. Stop acting as though my bare skin (as abundant as it is) is somehow encroaching on your right to live your life when I choose to wear a sleeveless top.
Just. Stop. Okay?
I’m so tired of people messaging me, telling me that I’m “normalizing fatness”. This is a message to you haters: Kiss our normal, fat asses!
The word FAT
a turn on.
You know you’re fat when a police officer is beating you with his/her nightstick telling you to ‘break it up’ and then suddenly realizes you’re not a crowd.
But I am an animal. A happy fat animal. Thank you for pointing out the fatness of my ass…I’ve worked very hard on it. I have to admit, though, I’m kind of blushing to have a stranger noticing the awesomeness of my fat ass.