“[TRIGGER WARNING: Rape] Fat women are treated as utterly undesirable in our culture [and] are often turned into a ‘bizarre’ fetish object. The result is that fat women are told to be grateful for any sexual attention they receive from anyone, whether they themselves find that person sexually appealing or not. In other words, even more than your average women, fat women are only allowed to be occasional objects of desire and are regularly denied their right to have and pursue sexual desires of their own.
That way of thinking becomes very dangerous when sexual violence is mixed in. When fat women are raped, they’re often told they should be grateful that anyone wanted them, or, alternatively, disbelieved because it doesn’t seem plausible that anyone would want them ‘enough to rape them.’ These arguments not only rely on the dangerous myth that rape is about uncontrollable sexual desire (it’s not), but also propagate the message that fat women’s bodies aren’t valuable enough to the culture for their violation to be taken seriously.”—Jaclyn Friedman, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety (via khaleesi)
“A three-day-old human embryo is a collection of 150 cells called a blastocyst. There are, for the sake of comparison, more than 100,000 cells in the brain of a fly. If our concern is about suffering in this universe, it is rather obvious that we should be more concerned about killing flies than about killing three-day-old human embryos… Many people will argue that the difference between a fly and a three-day-old human embryo is that a three-day-old human embryo is a potential human being. Every cell in your body, given the right manipulations, every cell with a nucleus is now a potential human being. Every time you scratch your nose, you’ve committed a holocaust of potential human beings… Let’s say we grant it that every three-day-old human embryo has a soul worthy of our moral concern. First of all, embryos at this stage can split into identical twins. Is this a case of one soul splitting into two souls? Embryos at this stage can fuse into a chimera. What has happened to the extra human soul in such a case? This is intellectually indefensible, but it’s morally indefensible given that these notions really are prolonging scarcely endurable misery of tens of millions of human beings, and because of the respect we accord religious faith, we can’t have this dialogue in the way that we should. I submit to you that if you think the interests of a three-day-old blastocyst trump the interests of a little girl with spinal cord injuries or a person with full-body burns, your moral intuitions have been obscured by religious metaphysics.”—
Sam Harris, Letter to a Christian Nation
Get it through your heads, people. Potentiality=/=actuality, and we don’t hand out rights based on mere potential.
“To me, the sinister genius of the Ron Paul agenda is that there’s this one piece of it - the anti-war rhetoric - that acts as a sort of siren call to certain progressives and turns off their brains to the rest of the agenda. And it’s gonna lure in a lot of kids from Iowa are gonna wind up voting for Ron Paul because they think it’s all peace, love, and no jail for pot.”—
“He showed the words “chocolate cake” to a group of Americans and recorded their word associations. “Guilt” was the top response. If that strikes you as unexceptional, consider the response of French eaters to the same prompt: “celebration.”—
“I’m fat positive because I’m a feminist, and I refuse to acknowledge in the magical thinking that if you’re small enough, quiet enough, compliant enough and saccharine enough, you will somehow be enough.”—You’re Welcome - Why I’m Fat Positive (via adrowningwoman)
“Misogyny is a systematic and institutionalized form of bigotry and oppression that permeates through every aspect of our society in ways that can be obvious or more subtle (rape culture and its perpetuation can be obvious or subtle and can sometimes be difficult for a man who has never felt its effects to detect, but either way it’s horrifying.) Misandry is not systematic and it is not institutionalized. The distrust or hatred of men is a rational reaction to misogyny, which is ubiquitous and static. Statements like “can’t we all just be friends?” assume that there exists a level playing field. Until this level playing field truly exists, statements like these can easily be dismissed as childish, naive, shallow, frivolous and boring.”—
My response to a man asking “can’t we all just be friends?” and “isn’t misandry just as bad as misogyny?” (via sixtyforty)
ugh I want to staple this to the “what about the menz??!” faux-feminist guys on my course.
They mean “until abortion is illegal,” which translates directly to “until abortion stops being SAFE.”
Abortion will never end. People who don’t want to be pregnant will always go to whatever lengths they have to to terminate said pregnancy. You cannot end abortion, only safe abortion. And if you want to do that, you are a dickhole.
“According to the Supreme Court, money is now speech and corporations are now people. But when real people without money assemble to express their dissatisfaction with the political consequences of this, they’re treated as public nuisances and evicted.”—Robert Reich (via sirmitchell)
Your boyfriend tells you that is makes sense that Viagra is covered by health insurance because it is used to treat a legitimate medical condition: Erectile Dysfunction. Okay thats fair, but…
This is his reasoning behind the fact that most insurances donotcover prescription Birth Control, and that contraception is so difficult to acquire, either through legal or financial boundaries. Because, you know, its not like any of the following are medical conditions which you need doctors and/or medical assistance for:
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome(PCOS) - is a hormone imbalance which causes irregular menstrual periods, acne, and excess hair growth. Oral contraceptive pills work by lowering certain hormone levels to regulate menstrual periods. When hormone levels are back to normal, acne and hair growth often improve.
Endometriosis - Most girls with endometriosis have cramps or pelvic pain during their menstrual cycle. Oral contraceptive pills are often prescribed to treat endometriosis and work by temporarily turning off the ovaries so ovulation does not happen. When hormonal treatment is prescribed continuously, young women will rarely have periods, or not at all. Since periods can cause pain for young women with endometriosis, stopping periods will usually improve cramps and pelvic pain.
Lack of periods (“amenorrhea”) from low weight, stress, excessive exercise, or damage to the ovaries from radiation or chemotherapy - With any of these conditions, the hormone “estrogen” is not made in normal amounts by the body. Oral contraceptive pills may be prescribed to replace estrogen, which helps to regulate the menstrual cycle. For girls whose menstrual periods are irregular (too few - or not at all), oral contraceptive pills can help to regulate the menstrual cycle to every 28 days and provide the body with normal amounts of estrogen to keep bones healthy.
Menstrual Cramps - When over-the-counter medications don’t help with severe cramps, oral contraceptive pills may be the solution because they prevent ovulation and lighten periods.
Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS) - Symptoms of PMS such as mood swings, breast soreness, bloating, and acne can occur up to 2 weeks before a young women’s period. Oral contraceptives pills are often prescribed to stop ovulation and keep hormone levels even. Symptoms usually improve, particularly when oral contraceptive pills are prescribed continuously.
Heavy Menstrual Periods - Oral contraceptive pills can reduce the amount and length of menstrual bleeding.
Acne - For moderate to severe acne, which over-the-counter and prescription medications can’t cure, oral contraceptive pills may be prescribed. The hormones in the oral contraceptive pill can help stop acne from forming. Be patient though, since it takes several months for the oral contraceptive pills to work.
Oh, and pregnancy, you totally never need to see a doctor of have checkups or go to a hospital when you’re pregnant.
YOU’RE TELLING ME THAT MEDICINE TO MAKE SOMEONE’S DICK HARD IS COVERED BUT MEDICATION SPECIFICALLY FOR FEMALE-BODIED FOLKS IS NOT AS EASILY COVERED. REMIND ME AGAIN HOW THIS ISN’T A PATRIARCHY?
Not exactly about abortion, but it does draw attention to the disparity between men’s and women’s reproductive health care. And some anti-choicers think oral contraceptives cause abortions. (Pro-tip: they don’t).
Abortion is a highly personal decision that many women are sure they’ll never have to think about until they’re suddenly faced with an unexpected pregnancy. But this can happen to anyone, including women who are strongly anti-choice. So what does an anti-choice woman do when she experiences an unwanted pregnancy herself? Often, she will grin and bear it, so to speak, but frequently, she opts for the solution she would deny to other women — abortion.
“Here’s an idea. If seeing me breastfeed my child makes you that uncomfortable, you can put a blanket over your head so that you don’t have to look at it. Problem solved! I can continue going about my business—feeding my child in a way that is safe, healthy, comfortable and natural—and you can deal with your inability to otherwise simply look away.”—http://robot-heart-politics.tumblr.com
Gaslighting is a term often used by mental health professionals (I am not one) to describe manipulative behavior used to confuse people into thinking their reactions are so far off base that they’re crazy.
I was a poor black kid in the inner city being raised by relatives because my father was never in the picture & my mother only had a passing acquaintance with functional adulthood, much less motherhood. I grew up with a lot of smart kids & I was one of the ones who got into a magnet school. Some of them did not. Some of them didn’t make it to high school because of violence or drugs or becoming teen parents. And sure, it’s easy to say we could have all made it out if you don’t understand the challenges poor inner city kids are facing.
10 year old’s that get recruited to carry drugs? They’re not doing it for a fancy car that they can’t even drive. They’re doing it to eat. To keep the lights on or a roof over their heads. Bling is nice, but trust me the guys recruiting little kids don’t go after the ones who aren’t desperate. Kids with safe warm comfortable homes aren’t likely to keep silent & definitely won’t feel a need to ally themselves with someone, anyone, in order to feel safe & loved. So, they join up & sometimes they get past being a soldier alive, but mostly? Mostly they wind up in juvie, injured, or dead before 16. So much for those magnet high schools.
And let’s not pretend the girls who get pregnant as young teens are coming from safe stable loving homes either. Sure there’s probably a few mixed into the overall statistics. But overwhelmingly they’re vulnerable because things aren’t great at home. And a guy (often a much older guy) who offers to buy them things & take them places seems to be the answer to all their problems. That answer usually leaves them holding a baby, maybe a criminal case or two, & a whole lot of societal blame for getting themselves in trouble. Because 14 year old girls are armed with crystal balls.
Now, did I evade early pregnancy, heavy involvement in gangs or drugs? Sure. Guess how? My grandmother kept me in the house. All the time. She walked me to and from school until 7th grade, and I never got to go to sleepovers or parties. She could do that because my grandfather worked well into his 80’s & my aunt was still living at home and paying rent. It took 3 relatives, an army of teachers, god knows how many friends, & the Army to make me a successful adult. I was still a single mother when I went to college, but that was post divorce so I guess that makes me different right?
Wrong. Even with all the support & the sheltered elementary school years I still went off the rails in high school after I went to live with my mother & her new husband. They earned middle class money, but have every class emotional problems that became my problems. I tried boys, booze, drugs, & suicide enough times in those 4 years that I lived with them to make up for the years between Kindergarten and 8th grade. Poor kids of color need strong wills, luck, & a supportive team if they are to succeed. Missing any of those components? The odds against them are incredible.
Instead of treating the kids as though they are responsible for what happens to them when they’re too young to reach the light switch, try remembering that they are children. Step in as a mentor, lobby for their schools to have supplies, support programs that would allow their parents to be healthy & present in their lives. Healthy communities generate healthy kids, but no community exist in a vacuum. Push for every community to have the same access to opportunity & you’ll see kids thrive. Wouldn’t supporting kids be better than blaming them?